Ways You Can Invest in Your Sex Life

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There’s no doubt that at some time or another you have invested in you marriage, but what about your sex life? I feel like a lot of people are hesitant to plan ahead or think too hard about sex. Isn’t intimacy just supposed to happen?

NO!

Maybe- just maybe- during your honeymoon period, sexual intimacy came naturally- maybe. Not everyone even gets that in their marriage.

If you want to have a good sex life, you must do things to invest in it. I’ve got a few suggestions for you.

Put Sex on The Calendar

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Every single time I suggest to people to put sex on the calendar, I have someone who asks this question-

Won’t scheduling it ahead kill the mood?

NO!

Anytime you plan in advance for something, it makes you feel more excited about it. On the contrary, you can enhance your mood by putting sex on the calendar.

Since it is on your calendar, you and your spouse will be able to keep it a priority. If you just wait for it to happen, then days may go by before you spend time together.

Learn What Your Spouse Likes During Physical Intimacy

Austin and I are firm believers in talking about sex before, during, and then after. Have open and honest conversations about your sexual encounters. You need to know what is working and what isn’t.

During your time of intimacy, you both need to feel free to make requests of the other person. If something isn’t feeling good or you want something different, then you can share it with them.

A follow up conversation after sex is also important. This allows you guys to check in with one another about the experience and give each other immediate feedback.

Try Something New Often

I’m not saying you need to try sex toys, new positions, or bedroom games every single time you have sex, but you should be adding these things in often. Don’t just wait for anniversaries or birthdays to do something different with each other.

New things help you to grow in communication and bring about a lot of excitement. Also, you might find that you really enjoy something and make it a regular part of your sex life.

Ask Questions From Trusted Sources

Many people have questions that they want to ask about sex. I know it can be hard to ask these personal questions, but it might be essential for you to ask.

Go to someone you trust to ask the questions you need answered. This may be a doctor if it is medical related, a friend, or in a more anonymous way by writing in to me or another blogger you trust. Of course, you want to be sure that the person you are asking will give you answers from a biblical perspective.

If you have concerns about the way sex is feeling or something that is happening during your encounters, make the effort to get the answer. Should you have a question you want to ask, Austin and I are more then happy to keep your question confidential and give you an honest answer. Feel free to email at keelie@lovehopeadventure.com.

When you take the time to invest in your sex life, you will go deeper in your intimacy overall.

2 Comments on Ways You Can Invest in Your Sex Life

  1. You are right about putting sex on the calendar. After years of no sex, we now schedule sex every afternoon from about 2:30 to 5:00 p.m. If we go to town and get home late, we miss that time together terribly. We have to make up that time later that night.

    We are learning all over again what each of us likes. It is a new adventure every day.

    Trying something new is still a challenge for my wife. I do more research than she does, so when I suggest a new thing, she objects so far. I am patient and just love our vanilla sex anyway. We are not bored and are having the greatest time that we have ever had.

    Thanks for being there. It is good to hear a Christian give good suggestions for sex in marriage. It is also good to have someone there to ask the hard questions and get some answers.

    • Keelie Reason | August 21, 2016 at 8:24 pm | Reply

      that is so encouraging! I’m so happy that you and your wife are able to spend time together. It’s wonderful that you are enjoying one another so much. 🙂

      I’m so happy to be here and talk about things that are important.

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