How to Stop Feeling Grossed Out By Receiving Oral Sex

I am often asked about how to get more comfortable with oral sex. In fact, I’ve written about it a few different times. This week, I’m answering a reader question.

Here’s what they asked-

Oral sex, no matter what, gives me the willies…is that normal?? I hate it. How can I get past that?

Here’s what I shared with them-

Yes, it is completely normal to feel grossed out by oral sex. A lot of men and women struggle with that. If you want to like it, then there’s a few things I suggest-

1. Figure out why oral sex grosses you out.

Is it a sanitation thing? Do you feel sexually dirty? Does it bring up bad memories? Get to the route cause of your mental block.

2. Change the way you think.

Change the way you think about oral sex

Once you know why you feel grossed out about it mentally, start combating those thoughts with positive thoughts about the sex act.

3. Experiment with direct stimulation.

Let your spouse spend more time giving you direct stimulation on your erotic spot. It really helps to allow your spouse to touch you more there. They need to use lubrication for this.

4. Get used to feeling wet.  

Some people think that oral sex is gross because of the extra moisture they feel. This can actually be a huge turn on once you get over the new sensations. We normally don’t want to feel wet down there.

So, your brain might be stopping you from enjoying the wetness. To acclimate yourself to that feeling, use lubrication. You can use lube during sex to make it wetter. You can also just put lube on yourself and walk around for a while in the mornings when you are getting ready.

5. Get really turned on.

Any time a sex act grosses you out, that normally goes out the window when you get super hot. Same thing happens if something is hurting you a little bit. Your brain can usually shut those inhibitions down to some degree. Get super super turned on and then let your spouse give you oral.

Another good idea might be to wait a few days in between sex so that anticipation builds in you. This can help you feel turned on faster.

6. Let your spouse tease you.

They can start with their fingers or a toy to get you stimulated. Then they should back off and tease you a little. You may find that you desire them to touch you more when they stop. That would easily lend itself to allowing them to give you oral going. Since you would be really excited at that point and desiring them to touch you, then it may feel better.

In general, when it comes to oral sex or anything sex related, we just have to get out of our minds. It may help you to close your eyes so you don’t see. It could be you need to stop thinking when he is doing it. Simply taking showers and using lotions and fragrances may put you at ease.

If you really want to learn to enjoy it, just keep trying a little at a time. It can take years to really learn to like something in the bedroom.

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8 Comments on How to Stop Feeling Grossed Out By Receiving Oral Sex

  1. Nice article.
    Thanks for sharing this priceless information. I´m sure are going to help many people to improve their sex life.
    All the best !
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  2. One can ask if it’s worth all the trouble if you have to try something for years before you’re gonna like it..

  3. While I have always enjoyed giving, I removed receiving oral sex from the table for the first 9 or so years of my marriage. We tried it a few times at first and I hated it. But my husband now and again gently let me know he’d love to keep trying. I figured out first I struggled with feeling like I am gross down there, some of which came from how I was raised. Trimming my hair to be very short and washing immediately beforehand helped. Next I learned that I was just plain bad at letting my husband pleasure me. I kept worrying that he was grossed out or uncomfortable or bored because it was taking so long. Even after a year or two of growing in this area, I still struggle with thoughts like these for a few minutes, but I’ve learned that if I push through, those thoughts do disappear when I become more aroused. I still prefer sexual intercourse over oral, but this has become our go-to when we are trying to avoid during my fertile window. I am so glad my husband gently pursued this; our sex life has been enriched by adding this back on the table.

    • Keelie Reason | June 21, 2017 at 4:03 am | Reply

      I’m so glad you are finding pleasure in this now. It can take years to learn to enjoy some things in regards to sex.

  4. Oh, and coconut oil! I forgot to mention coconut oil. I rub just a tiny bit on me beforehand as one more way for me to stop worrying that he is grossed out. Although he says that now it is weird for him to eat anything with coconut in it because it tastes like sex. 😂

    • Keelie Reason | June 21, 2017 at 4:04 am | Reply

      Hahaha…we have this same issue with some of the fragrances I use. We call them the sex fragrances. 😀

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