How to Stop Feeling Grossed Out When Giving Your Husband Oral Sex

After I sent wrote about how to stop feeling grossed out on receiving oral sex, I received more questions about giving. One reader wanted to know how to stop feeling grossed out by giving their husband oral sex. This is such a tough topic, but one we really need to work through.
If your spouse really enjoys foreplay moves or sex positions, it would be honoring for you to figure out how to make it happen. So, if you are struggling with this, but want to give oral sex a try, then try these ideas.

1. Work through your mindset.


I personally do not see anywhere in the scriptures that talks about oral sex being wrong. If anything, many well studied Bible scholars believe that oral sex is referenced in Song of Solomon.
I certainly think that saying that dogs lick themselves and that we shouldn’t for that reason. That sounds like a personal preference, not a mandate.

2. Use flavored lube.


If the taste is bothering you, then I suggest you use a flavored lube. There’s plenty of flavors that you can work with. If you don’t want to use lube, you can use a natural products like chocolate syrup, coconut oil, whipped cream, or something else. Believe me, this will really go a long way in helping you deal with the taste.

3. Start small.


You don’t have to bring your spouse to orgasm every time you give him oral sex. You can give him a little bit before you have sex. Actually, wetting him down with your mouth will make it easier to have sex, because you are adding to the lubrication. The more you do it, the easier it will become.

4. Work up to letting him orgasm in your mouth.


If cum is a real problem for you, then bring him to the point of orgasm and then finish him off another way. Right before he is ready, you can stop giving him oral and use your hands or something else.

5. Be open with your communication.


Let him know that this is something you want to do for him, but you are struggling. He needs to know that when you give him oral sex, that you are putting yourself out there for him. That will help him be much more understanding and appreciate your efforts more.
Also, let him know what cleaning routine you need from him. It may help you if he were to spray your favorite cologne or fragrance on his legs. He doesn’t need to spray it directly on himself, because then you’ll end up eating that.

6. Give it time.


I think that a lot of people think that if they don’t like something right away in the bedroom, then they should stop. It can take years for you to start to enjoy certain types of foreplay and sex positions. It is important to keep trying. Give yourself patience and grace. Push yourself a little at a time.
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12 Comments on How to Stop Feeling Grossed Out When Giving Your Husband Oral Sex

  1. One thing that really helped me was my husband trimmed his hair down in that area. It helps me so that I do not get a mouthful of hair when I’m trying to take care of him.

    • Keelie Reason | June 17, 2017 at 7:48 pm | Reply

      yes! That’s a really important thing to communicate.

    • I was going to say the same thing. Hubby and I both clean up a bit before heading into the bedroom and he also some some manscaping down there. If smell, cleanliness, and hair are part of what is grossing a wife out, it may be a slightly awkward conversation to ask for him to work on these, but hopefully “I want to give you more oral sex” is a good motivator. Ha.

  2. Good points! The cleaning and grooming routine is very important and super helpful…for both parties!

  3. Nice article
    just shared with my partner…
    Thanks for sharing!
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  4. Along similar lines to starting small, keep in mind that the most sensitive nerve endings are at the head and frenulum, so a wife doesn’t have to take the WHOLE thing into her mouth, especially if that length is going to trigger a gag reflex. Focus on the head. You can use your hand for the bottom half of the shaft if desired but the whole thing doesn’t have to be in your mouth if that is grossing you out too much.

    • Keelie Reason | June 21, 2017 at 4:02 am | Reply

      Yes, I actually wrote about the Frenulum orgasm for men and felt it was a great introductory type of oral play for a wife who isn’t ready to put their husband’s entire penis in their mouth. Great thoughts!

  5. My advice for the hesitant is to take baby steps and work up to getting him to orgasm in your mouth. I know it sounds like a lot but it really gets more pleasant. I actually love it now but I had to work up to it. Also another hint is to consider not using lube. Lube can have a terrible taste and odor, and in time you may actually be drawn to your husband’s scent.
    When you master what he likes even if it takes time, your husband will feel really loved and happy and that will make you feel like a rockstar!

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