Do Men Enjoy Using Mirrors During Sex?

This week, I have received this question more then once, do men enjoy using mirrors during sex? I asked my husband Austin to come on and answer this question from his perspective. 

Here’s what he has to say-

Do men enjoy using mirrors during sex?

Yes. Yes we do.

Ok, maybe we need more than that as an answer.

As always, I’ll begin with the disclaimer that not all men are the same. We talk a lot about gender generalities (genderalities? No that’s dumb.). But just because something is true of most/a lot of men doesn’t mean it’s true of all men.

Guys, if none of the following things are true of you, that’s cool. You be you. Ladies, if you’re wondering about this, go back to our core principle – Communicate, communicate, communicate.

That being said, why would men enjoy using mirrors during sex? Well, there’s a few reasons.

You’re hot

We’ll get more into the specifics of how this pertains to mirrors in the next section. However, I always want to start here. I’m constantly saddened at what the culture is teaching girls and women about their bodies. So many women are ashamed of their looks.

We’ll get more into the specifics of how this pertains to mirrors in the next section. However, I always want to start here. I’m constantly saddened at what the culture is teaching girls and women about their bodies. So many women are ashamed of their looks.

So ladies, always remember this. Your husband thinks you’re hot. He thinks you’re sexy. He likes your body. Let him see it. Be visually generous. Be confident. Remember that when you get naked, your husband loves it.

We’re visually oriented

A lot of guys are very visually stimulated. This is why porn is typically more popular with men, while erotic fiction is more popular with women. With the rising availability and mainstreaming of porn, this trend seems to be changing, btw.

Guys like to look. We want to see your body, all of it. We want to see different angles. We want to see you in different positions. Mirrors can allow for this. It’s impossible to see a side view without a mirror, and that can be incredibly erotic.


For some couples, using mirrors kind of takes things to a new level. It’s going on an adventure, which we’re huge fans of in all areas of the marriage. It can be an interesting next step in exploring openness and engagement in sex.

Maybe you’re a couple that started out having very hidden sex. By that I mean sex in the dark, under the covers, etc. Hopefully you’ve moved beyond that, turning on the lights and enjoying the sight of each other’s bodies. Mirrors provide another step in that direction, allowing you to see each other even better.

If you’re trying something new in the bedroom in general, using mirrors can be great as well. Say you’re trying out our Sexy Truth or Dare for Couples. Get a good look at the new things you’re discovering together.

As for engagement, mirrors can help you connect more during sex. Certain positions don’t lend themselves well to eye contact. Using a mirror can help overcome that. Get into a spot where you can both see each other, and all of a sudden you’re able to connect in a way you never have.

Objects may appear larger than you thought

Looking straight down at ourselves can give us a slightly distorted understanding of what’s actually going on down there.

I’ve mentioned that a lot of women have body image issues. Men are not immune from this. One area in particular where this is felt quite strongly is penis size. Lots of things have been written about this, but suffice it to say, it’s a big deal. Some of this is caused by simple angle problems.

Looking straight down at ourselves can give us a slightly distorted understanding of what’s actually going on down there.

Seeing from a side view changes all this. Pulling yourself into third person, so to speak, gives a more objective look at things. This is particularly true during oral sex. Ladies, it might not make sense, but it is all a perception thing. Guys, once you try it, you’ll get it.

Guys, have I missed anything? I asked around a bit and got some good insight, but I may have missed some things. Are there any other benefits of using mirrors during sex? Sound off in the comments below.

22 Comments on Do Men Enjoy Using Mirrors During Sex?

  1. I second the most important thing is for the wife to accept that her husband thinks she’s beautiful, regardless if she has a “perfect” body or not. There is nothing sexier than a woman who is confident with her self-image and not afraid to share her body with her husband.

    • Agreed. 🙂

    • Brent, it is my sole purpose on our two websites to get this message across. If I can convince all of our female readership that their husbands think they’re hot, my work here is done! 😉

      And yes, the sexiest thing a woman can put on is confidence.

  2. I agree with Brent. And with that said…once she realizes that we love her body she will become aware that we want to see it all. Using mirrors allows to see…say her backside during rear entry and the side view so we can watch her breasts and facial expressions, which in turn turn us on more. 🙂

  3. Happily Married | January 6, 2017 at 3:04 am | Reply

    Thanks for a great idea. Im on a trip away from hubby and promised him a special strip/lap dance when I get back so he could have something to look forward to…I think I’ll add mirrors to mix. He’ll LOVE that since his request was “to see all of my body.” 😉

  4. Oh yes, I love mirrors and I’m sure most other men do too! Mirrors simply give you another perspective 😉

  5. We are in our 70s and I still like seeing my wife nude. It is difficult to do this during sex, because we are so close to each other.

    I have a question. Where do you put the mirrors? Are these permanent or movable? I have drawers, windows and drapes, doors, nightstands, lamps, etc. all around the room. The mirrors we have already do not give any view of our bed (they are for makeup and dressing).

    If I put a bunch of permanent mirrors around, what will I tell guests if they walk in our room? It could get expensive to glue a big mirror on the ceiling, or I could break them if they are movable (also a storage problem). It also seems the best angle would be from several hanging mirrors from the ceiling at an obtuse angle.

    I like the idea, but I don’t see how to do it in a practical way.

    • first off, Mike, you’re my hero. 70’s and still enjoying each other! #marriagegoals

      as for placement, I hear ya. Keelie wrote about this a year ago and has some good practical tips.

      more specifically to your question i’d say the following: if trying to be discreet, go for inconspicuous mirrors. in the article above, Keelie mentions a dresser-top mirror at the end of the bed. you can also put a full-length mirror on a door. nothing out of place here… we just use these for getting dressed… move along!

    • Wow Mike! I love that ya’ll are still pursuing each other. Man, I hope to be doing the same when I hit that age with my love 🙂

  6. Fabulous concept. Have never considered mirrors before. We will have to explore this topic further.

  7. This is great advice for people who have hot bodies, and husbands who desire them. I have a much higher sex drive than my husband, and his low drive tells me that I’m not very attractive or desireable to him. We’ve discussed using mirrors, but I think it would turn him off, as he often has his eyes closed when we make love. I’ve read online that this is so he can picture something better. It makes me sad.

    I’m not hideous, had a couple babies and cant quite get the tummy back to flat. I try, but it’ll never be the same. In fact, I popped in on him while I was naked the other morning in the bathroom and we started playing around (for fun, I knew he wouldn’t actually want me) but we ended up in front of the mirror. When I looked up and saw my tummy (which is flat-ish while standing) when I saw how loose the skin was and how ugly and disgustingly it was hanging from my body, I got out of that position right away. And I made a quick excuse to leave. I was kind of horrified to be honest, I know I’m not close to perfect but I had no idea I was that gross. No wonder my husband isn’t interested in sex nearly as often as I am.

    But on a positive note, I say if you’re built right, or pretty enough to do it, or just blessed enough to have a husband who really does think you’re hot (and doesn’t just lie about it because that’s what men are “supposed” to say) then go for it with the mirrors! I’ve always wanted to try, but after the bathroom experience, and seeing just how bad my body really is, I don’t think it’s a great idea. While we’ve made progress, I’m thinking back to lights out might help. Then he won’t have to look at my ugliness if he opens his eyes, and if he keeps them closed i won’t have to feel sad, wondering which part of me grosses him out so badly he can’t look.

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