I have no idea why I even bother with Google anymore…. I feel the entire internet is crawling with less than helpful articles. I just read 3 articles on foreplay that sounds like a 15 year old wrote them.
The lack of creativity that I read in “spice it up” posts is enough to make me realize that the need for real tips is legit.
So, here are some foreplay moves you can try out tonight that will actually turn you on.
Nipple action for him and her
Don’t neglect the husband’s nipples or the wife’s nipples. If you haven’t taken the time to suck, lick, or lightly bite one another’s nipples, then it’s time you do. This is going to require some communication, because your spouse may have sensitive nipples.
Start out gently swirling your tongue around their nipple. Going at them too hard can cause over stimulation. If it feels good to them, then start sucking some.
Work your way up to gently biting. You can hold their nipple between your teeth and move your tongue back and forth if biting it too intense.
Lick and suck on their belly button
Here’s a foreplay move that I’ve NEVER heard anyone talk about. If your spouse has a sensitive belly button, this can be a great turn on for them. To see if this is an erogenous zone for your lover, put your tongue in their belly button and move it around some.
If they like it, then you can move to creating a suction over their belly button with your mouth. Place your mouth over their belly button and suck in like you are trying to drink from a straw.
Suck on and gently bite their earlobe
Take the bottom of their earlobe into your mouth and suck on it some. Hold their earlobe in your mouth between your teeth and rub your tongue back and forth. Wet down their lobe and then gently blow on it- or better yet, whisper something sexy in their ear.
Kiss and lick their neck
Start kissing all over their back of their neck. I wouldn’t suggest the front of their neck, because it might break their concentration if you get on their throat. However, stay on the back and side with kissing. Move to licking and sucking. (Hickies are optional)
Ladies- play with his balls using your hands and tongue
This is something specific the ladies can do for their husband. Gently hold his balls in your hands and move the balls back and forth. You can also kiss his balls (guys you might want to shave for this) or lick them.
Here’s a great post from J about making most of his manhood and outlining how to play with his balls.
Men- gently rub her clitoris with lube
Here’s a specific thing men can do. Put lubrication on your fingers and gently rub her clitoris or the area around it. Please don’t rub on her clitoris without lube….because she will likely hate it. Lube is completely necessary- spit isn’t going to work.
I won’t re-invent the wheel on this one, because El Fury wrote a really great post on how to rub a clitoris.
Kiss and lick their back
You can seriously just put kiss and lick almost all of the parts of their body on the list. Explore your spouse’s body with your tongue and lips. This will help you both figure out where their erogenous zones are. It is going to be different on each person.
Play with erogenous zones through silk material
Place a silky type of material over your erogenous zones such as breast, nipples, penis, vagina, etc. and gently rub across those areas. The light tickling feeling may be very stimulating for your spouse. You could also gently rub the silk materials over those areas to see how they respond.
I don’t want to leave some of the more obvious types of foreplay off the table. Oral sex can be a great way to start and finish your spouse. Just be sure that you discuss ahead of time if this is how they want to finish, and if so, what will they do for you.
Ladies- check out this Oral Sex How To by J over at Hot Holy Humorous.
Look at your spouse pleasing you in a mirror
I’m all for mirrors in the bedroom. While your spouse is licking, sucking, biting, rubbing, the various areas of your body, look into a mirror. If you don’t have one that you can see in on your wall, then use a hand held mirror. In fact, a smaller mirror can be just as effective.
Rub your body over theirs
Just rub your body all over theirs. Have them lay on their stomach and you can rub your chest all over them. Then they can flip to their back and you can repeat the process.
I realize this is not all of the foreplay moves that you can try with your spouse. I stayed away from anal play altogether, because frankly, I think it is unsanitary.
Here’s the thing with foreplay, your spouse is going to like different things than you do. The best thing you can do is to try different things for them. Also, they need to really be listening to their body as you give them pleasure so that they can tell you what they think will feel good.
I hope that you enjoy the next time that you spend on foreplay and try out some of these ideas.