Expect to Orgasm Every Time

There was a time that I didn’t expect to have an orgasm every time I had sex. I realize that seems completely crazy for husbands, but many wives say they can take it or leave it. The problem I find with this concept- is that it easily leads to duty sex.

Why Not Expecting Orgasm Leads to Duty Sex

Sex should feel good- to both people. When sex only feels good to one person, it tends to move to the chore list for the one that’s not experiencing the high. And why wouldn’t it? If you don’t feel you are receiving any benefit from a regular activity, it’s not going to be something you jump at the chance to do.

Doing dishes is my least favorite chore. I know the dishes need to be done so we can eat, but it’s not something I enjoy doing. It is what it is- a chore. Maybe a spouse knows that sex is something important in the marriage, but they have little motivation to do it, because it isn’t giving them satisfaction.

Resentment Comes From Not Orgasming

Here’s the unfortunate cycle that many spouses get in. They struggle to orgasm, which leads to disappointment. They go into the next sexual encounter with less confidence, which makes them less likely to orgasm.

When one spouse is clearly having a wonderful time with a sexual experience, and the other isn’t- resentment tends to build. The spouse that isn’t reaching climax can feel left out of the experience.

No orgasm= no motivation. So, how do you increase your chances of experiencing that high and enjoying your intimate time more?

Expect to Orgasm Every Time

The husband and wife need to expect that both of them will reach orgasm every time. When you both come into the situation with the mindset that you’ll do what it takes to get your spouse there, it makes a big difference.

Working together as a team takes place in the bedroom as much as any other part of marriage. If you both go into the situation with the same expectation, it helps you achieve your goals.

Don’t Give Up

I say to the spouse that is struggling to enjoy sex- don’t give up. To the spouse that is married to someone that struggles to enjoy sex- don’t give up. This is part of the commitment that you made to them on their wedding day. You will be there with them no matter what.

Try new things, keep working at it, celebrate your victories, and ultimately, work towards great intimacy.

4 Comments on Expect to Orgasm Every Time

  1. Our approach is that Sexy Corte has an orgasm whenever she wants, but she doesn’t want to have one every time we have sex. It really depends on where she is in her cycle, her energy level, time of day, etc. She doesn’t want the pressure of having an orgasm every day, but she enjoys having sex anyway.
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    • Keelie Reason | August 20, 2017 at 4:44 am | Reply

      That’s awesome! Obviously, she is making that decision ahead of time. Some women don’t think they have a choice, for whatever reason. I think it’s great that she can orgasm whenever she wants. 😀

  2. Nice post!
    So true No orgasm = no motivation
    Now your spouse and try new things…
    All the best!
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