I think we women have been so conditioned that men can get turned on the moment we drop our panties, that we get surprised when they don’t. I’m not saying that it doesn’t ever get your husband excited, but many things can affect his ability to get hard.
If he isn’t physically ready, then you will need to take action. Here are a few ideas to get you started.
1. Pay Attention to His Nipples
Just like many women enjoy nipple play, so do many men. Start out slow and work your way up. You can gently rub your fingers across his nipples to warm him up. Then move into licking, sucking, and lightly biting.
2. Suck and Bite His Ear Lobes and Neck
Some men respond to ear and neck stimulation. Gently suck on and bite on his ear lobes and neck. You can heighten the experience by pulling away and blowing on the wet area before going back.
3. Have a Hot Make Out Session
Have a hot and heavy make out session. Start off by kissing and let the passion build into french kissing. Grab his lip with your and gently suck and pull. Don’t be afraid to move to his ears, neck, and nipples during the make out session.
4. Put Pressure on His Package
Men need pressure on their penis during foreplay. Hold his penis or balls while you kiss or do other foreplay moves. You can also straddle him so that he can push against you during the times of arousal.
5. Be Visually Generous
Once your husband starts getting excited, being visually generous can get him even more turned on. To accomplish this, consider getting into different positions for him to look at you such as:
- Get on your hands knees with your bottom facing him
- Stand up and bend over
- Hold your hands over your head
- Arch your back
- Rub your hands over your body
These moves may be a little out of your comfort zone, but it is worth it for your confidence as well as his arousal for you to try. Being adventurous in the bedroom is fun for both of you.